Self-doubt is one of the most difficult hurdles to overcome. It can become a persistent, powerful voice that holds us back from stepping out and daring boldly! At CourageToLead.com, we talk with leaders about getting their “swagger” back or possessing a holy confidence. I believe every great leader possesses it. To get there, however, we have to overcome our tough self-doubts. Here are
6 Ways To Overcome Self Doubt:
Stop Being A Perfectionist.
Consider this: if you can look back and be proud of everything you’ve done…you probably haven’t learned anything! Celebrate your progress. Don’t focus on what you’re not. Don’t focus on what you can’t do. Don’t focus on your failures. Focus on lessons learned. Don’t be a perfectionist. Don’t worry about “excellence.” Focus on consistency and persistence. It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be!
Do it Your Way.
Counterfeit and copycat leaders are easy to spot and difficult to follow in the long run. Stop being a copycat. Stop trying to be like everyone else. Take a cue from Frank Sinatra: Do it your way! The most important thing you do is become the best version of you!
Stop Listening to Most People.
Don’t listen to most people. Most people will armchair quarterbacks or jealous critics. Only listen to people who: love God (makes them others focused); loves your VISION (makes them loyal & supportive); and, people who love YOU (makes them be honest with you)! I’m going to write an entire post about this one!
Filter Your eyes and Your Mind.
You’ve heard the old adage: “Garbage in, Garbage out,” but I don’t believe that’s entirely true. Some garbage stays inside! Filter what you watch, who you listen to, and surround yourself with. Set boundaries around negative people and influences. Hang out with positive people.
Enjoy The Journey.
Growth and Learning is the real fun! If you’re not happy now, you won’t be happy then. The most important choice you can make today is to have joy in your life and to enjoy the journey. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. Enjoy the journey not just the destination! Stop beating yourself up. Stop being your worst critic. Believe in yourself as much your God believes in you! You are His child and He has big plans for you!
Get a Coach.
I can’t remember a time when I left a conversation with one of my coaches when I did not come away inspired, encouraged, and more confident! I simply believe every leader needs a coach, for this, among many other reasons! Get a coach!
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Shawn Lovejoy is the Founder & CEO of CourageToLead.com. He leads a team of coaches whose passion is coaching leaders through what keeps them up at night. He loves helping ministries & organizations accomplish all of their potential and gain or sustain momentum! Shawn has led a successful real estate business, a fast-growing megachurch, and now a fast growing coaching organization. He’s been married for 25 years to his best friend Tricia and they have three half-grown kids: Hannah, Madison, & Paul. They all live in Birmingham, AL.